Here are some sex resolutions you should make to rekindle the flame.
Learn some Kama Sutra
Given that the world's oldest guide on love, sex and spirituality is
our home production, we Indians should be most adept at the subject. Not
the case with you? Well, the book will never go out of fashion and
relevance. Plus, its sex chapters have often been plucked out and
circulated on the internet, books and on DVDs. Apart from positions, it
has some useful advice on behavior, kissing and touching as well. So, turn over a new leaf tonight!
Revisit old moves
If you've stopped making certain moves in bed because they've bothered
you or your partner, find out exactly why it occurs and get over it.
Keep in mind, though, the same goes for him/her. Also, if you think
you're too 'grown up' for some moves you used to make with your college
flame, a total recall would be good fun!
Make a to-do list
We're not saying stick post-its on the ceiling but you and your partner
can set a rough timetable, right? Once a month, once a week, whenever
suits you - it is important to make to-do list of styles, fantasies -
whatever's fun.
Have more foreplay
Women still complain of insufficient foreplay when it comes to sex.
Here's a fact: women who get at least 20 minutes of foreplay are 80 per
cent more likely to have an orgasm. Don't let your lover be one in the
remaining lot.
Add the funk
Sex has become a mechanical activity for many stressed couples. There's
a way out. One of you - whoever's less stressed - can change the way
you make love
(at least for one night, for starters). Suggestions: Forget the ice
cubes cliche, get a bottle of wine instead; play raunchy Hindi numbers,
encourage dirty chatter in bed... we hope you get the drift?
Go on an adventurous date
A weekend trip to an exotic resort can just get the fun back into your
sex. Sometimes, a break in monotony is just what your brain needs to get energized. Take to mountain-climbing, paragliding or simply walk down
the beach. Excitement needn't always be expensive.
Overcome your fears
Is there anything you or your mate want to try but breaks into a cold
sweat attempting it? There is nothing as liberating as being terrified
of something and overcoming it.
Break one of your taboos
Similarly, if you've imposed any rules or taboos on yourself because of fear, lack of knowledge or social pressure, break it.
Communicate...
... and more regularly. It is perhaps the most crucial resolution for your relationship.
It seems basic, but when was the last time you discussed sex with
him/her? Speaking up is one of the most important ingredients of a
healthy sex life.
Oct 28, 2012
