Women want these 10 things from men

That is the advice actress Neetu Chandra gives to men as she talks about the things men should know about women.

1. We love the way you courted us jab we met. The texts, calls, flowers, chocolates, cards, airport pick-ups, weekends away. Please don't stop this when you know you 'have us'.

2. We like security and a feeling of familiarity. Give us a chance to get to know you, before hitting on us.

3. We want to be treated as ladies. Not as unequals. We don't expect you to open every door and foot every bill, but it doesn't mean we don't find your gestures of genuine chivalry very attractive. Even the most independent woman wants to feel she is treasured and adored as an object of beauty, just as long as it doesn't go so far that the man insists on making her every decision.

4. We like to talk. This does not mean we are asking for your opinion or that we want you to magically fix all our problems. Mostly, we just need to vent. And we love it so much when you really hear us. Listen cos that's all you need to do.

5. We expect you to remember relationship landmarks. You love technology, so when we tell you our anniversary is coming, or our birthday, put it in your planner, so you remember. You remember meetings, and cricket scores, so remember birthdays, it's not that hard.

6. We love an excuse to get dressed up. Give us the chance to sizzle in our glam wardrobe. Don't get nervous if other guys look at us.

Remember we're on your arm.

7. Keep your promises. We like simple courtesies. Be on time, do whatever you said you were going to, and if things have changed, muster up the courage to tell us upfront.

8. Love for us begins in the mind. Just like you like the sensuous curves, we like the dinners, romance and dreamy conversation.

9. We also love sports, but it does not mean that it has to be the same game you play.

10. We don't want you to give up on guys nights. Believe it or not, we understand that you need space. We love our all-girl time as well.

When porn creeps in your relationship

Your partner's 'harmless' viewing habits can jeopardise your relationship, but throwing a fit without understanding will do no good either. Dr Rajan Bhonsle clears the doubts

Many think pornography has no ill effects. However, research has proved that pornography can shape attitudes and encourage behaviour that harms individuals and families. Because it is often viewed in secrecy, it creates deception in marriage, often leading to divorce. Moreover, pornography promotes the allure of adultery, prostitution and unrealistic expectations that lead to dangerous promiscuous behaviour.

Where's the love?
Some believe that if you aren't turned on by your partner, it is okay to fantasise about someone else while having sex or watching porn. While it may help superficially, the risks run deeper. You may feel excited while being 'with' your partner but not 'by' him/her. There will be sex, but no love and the former is a great barometer to know the relationship's well-being.
Turning to porn for excitement when there is an option of physical intimacy is a sign of sexual immaturity. Don't live in denial that it's for 'fun'. For such a person, sex might only be skin-deep.

Stimulant factor
Many people rely on pornography for stimulation. This is because they spend so much energy numbing themselves that they cannot 'feel' unless given a large and strong stimulation. Everyday, sex counselors come across many cases of sexual problems and resentments stemming from the use of porn.

The ugly side
Porn is a special class of 'sex addiction' that's distinct from promiscuity, compulsive masturbation, anonymous sex, paedophilia, fetishes, voyeurism etc. It can best be described as an obsessive relationship with a fantasy. For many, porn simply adds to their otherwise sexually addictive behaviour.

Pornography, like any other sex addiction, becomes the user's fix. The user becomes so enraptured, that he ends up destroying perfectly good relationships by spending hours (sometimes days) surfing porn and wasting money on it.

The stages
Dr Victor Cline, researcher and psychology professor, found a fourstep progression among many who consume pornography.
Addiction: A strong aphrodisiac effect, followed by sexual release, mostly via masturbation.
Escalation: Over time, addicts require more explicit and deviant material to meet sexual 'needs'.
Desensitisation: What was first perceived as gross, shocking and disturbing, in time becomes common and acceptable.
Acting out sexually: An increased tendency to act out behaviours that one views in pornography.

Where does it begin?
Some therapists say that pornography is simply an excuse to justify lack of control and unwillingness to conform to acceptable norms.

Other shrinks maintain that it is a 'compulsive behaviour' that has its roots in early childhood and can afflict both males and females.

It is believed that people who suffer from this disorder often come from 'dysfunctional families'.

There is evidence that a high percentage of people who experience the need to have a continuous compulsive urge to watch pornography, were physically or emotionally abused as children.

Porn and the community
The general content of pornography supports abuse and rape (supported by the myth that women enjoy forceful sex) and serves as a how-to for sex crimes. For example, in America, in the Phoenix neighborhoods where 'adult' businesses were located, the number of sex offenses was 506 per cent greater than in areas without such businesses. Dr Mary Anne Layden, director of education, University of Pennsylvania Health System pointed out, "In the 13 years of her treating sexual violence victims and perpetrators, I have not treated a single case that did not involve porn."

'I' before 'You'
External stimulations are necessary when sex is merely a physical activity. The lack of love cannot be blamed on any one. In such a case, both partners need to examine their relationship, either individually or with a counsellor. Very often, wives look down upon the husband and engage in a blame game. However, it is best to ask oneself, 'What can 'I' do to bring more depth into my relationship and turn in into something that involves more than sex?'

Top 5 facts about male condoms

Even though researchers have time and again proved that using a condom is one of the best methods of preventing unwanted pregnancies, STDs, lately the efficacy of condoms has been debated in many forums.

A healthy part of an active sexual life, there has been too much misinformation and insufficient research lurking around on the right usage, advantages and facts about condoms. Thus, in a bid to put an end to confusion and misunderstanding, we reveal to you the top 5 must-know facts about male condoms.

1. In actuality, the chances of condom failures are not more than 2%. Most of the condom failures occur because of not using them in a right way. A condom must be used over an erect penis in order to keep the sperms from entering the vagina. One must use condoms, which are made from latex, polyurethane, and polyisoprene because they help in protection against pregnancies and STIS.

2. One should not be using a condom, if they are allergic to latex.

3. Some people tend to believe that two condoms are better than one. This is not true. In fact, you tend to elevate the risk of tearing the condom because of the high level of friction.

4. Some of the most common causes of condom breakage are - lengthy or rough sex, using oil-based lubricants, anal sex, drying out of the vagina, and opening the condom package with a sharp object.

5. It is important to store condoms in a cool and dry place. This is because with extreme heat and moisture, the condom tends to become brittle and leads to extreme breakage during intercourse.

Faculty posts in SVBP Meerut May-2013

Sardar Vallabh Bhai Patel (SVBP) University of Agriculture & TechnologyMeerut- 250110 (UP)


Applications are invited for following faculty and non-faculty Jobs :

1. Professor  : 09 posts
2. Associate Professor : 12 posts
3. Assistant Professor   :  22 posts

How to Apply :  Application on prescribed format along with enclosures and a bank draft of Rs. 1500/-  (Rs. 750/- for SC/ST) for teaching posts in favour of Comptroller, SVP University of Agriculture & Technology, Meerut payable at Meerut should reach Registrar, SVP University of Agriculture & Technology, Meerut by registered post on or before the closing date 17/06/2013.

Please visit http://www.svbpmeerut.ac.in/pages/add.html for details and application format.

Job posts in GNLU May-2013

Gujarat National Law University (GNLU) 
Attalika Avenue, Knowledge Corridor, Koba, Gandhinagar - 382007 – Gujarat


Applications are invited for the following posts in GNLU :

1. Professor in Law
2. Associate Professor in Law
3. Assistant Professors  (Senior Scale/Selection Grade) in Law,  Commerce, Management, Science and Technology, History
4. GNLU Fellows in 
• GNLU–Gujarat Council on Science and Technology (GUJCOST) Visiting Assistant Professor - Senior Residential IPR Laws, Policy and Practice Fellow
• GNLU Energy Law, Policy and Practice Fellow 
• GNLU-Khaitan & Co Mergers and Acquisitions Law, Policy and Practice Fellow
• GNLU Law of the Sea and Maritime Laws, Policy and Practice Fellow 
• GNLU-Cube Construction Engineering Limited (CCEL) Real Estate Law, Policy and Practice Fellow

Compensation and eligibility conditions as per UGC norms. 

 How to Apply : Applications to be Sent to Registrar,Gujarat National Law University (GNLU), Old NIFT Building, E-4 GIDC , Electronics Estate, Sector-26, Gandhinagar - 382028, Gujarat, India on or before05/06/2013. 

For further details and application form, please visit http://www.gnlu.ac.in/vacancies.htm

MP Vyapam Staff Nurse Exemination May-2013

Madhya Pradesh Professional Examination Board
(Madhya Pradesh Vyavasyik Pareeksha Mandal) (VYAPAM)
"Chayan Bhawan", Main Road No.1, Chinar Park (East), Bhopal - 462011


Examination-2013 for the post of  Staff Nurse Directorate of Health Services of Government of MP on Direct basis  

An examination will be conducted on 21/07/2013 for the following posts :

• Staff Nurse : 2000 posts, Pay Scale : Rs.5200-20200 grade pay Rs. 2400/- in the training period and Rs.1900/- after training period., Age : 18-45 years as on 01/01/2014.

Application Fee : Rs.500/- (Rs.250/- for SC/ST/PH) + Rs.50/- for Online charges. 

How to Apply : Apply Online at websiteshttp://www.vyapam.nic.in OR http://www.mponline.gov.in  from20/05/2013 to 18/06/2013.

Please viewhttp://www.mpinfo.org/mpinfonew/rojgar/2013/2005/vac04.asp for details.

Non-Teaching posts in Visva-Bharati University May-2013

VISVA-BHARATI UNIVERSITY
Shantiniketan, Birbhum, West Bengal, India, 731235


Visva Bharati, a Central University and an “institution of national importance” invites application for the following Non-Teaching positions :

1. Medical Superintendent, P M Hospital 
2. Specialist Medical Officer – Surgery, P.M.Hospital 
3. Specialist Medical Officer – Obstetrics & Gynaecology
4. Specialist Medical Officer – Anaesthetist (SC)
5. Medical Officer (GDMO) (OBC) 
6. Assistant Engineer - Electrical (OBC)
7. Reprographer – cum - Photographic Officer, Rabindra Bhavana
8. Superintendent, Girls Hostel
9. Administrative Incharge - Manuscript, Vidya Bhavana
10. Cartographer - Geography Department
11. Senior Technical Assistant, Visva Bharati(PH)
12. Accompanist in Tabla, Pakhawaj and Khole, Deptt. of RMDD, Sangit Bhavana (ST)
13. Accompanist in Tabla, Pakhawaj and Khole, Deptt. of RMDD, Sangit Bhavana
14. Accompanist in Manipuri Khole, Deptt. of RMDD, Sangit Bhavana (SC)
15. Staff Nurse, P.M.Hospital, Visva Bharati 
16. Staff Nurse, P.M.Hospital, Visva Bharati(OBC)
17. Laboratory Technician(Pathology), P.M.Hospital, Visva Bharati (OBC)
18. Herbarium Assistant, Visva - Bharati (SC) 
19. Junior Supervisor, Paper Making & Book Binding, Silpa Sadana(SC) 
20. Sanitary Inspector, Sanitation(SC)
21. Technical Assistant - Bengali Manuscript (OBC)
22. Technical Assistant, Visva-Bharati (OBC)
23. Technical Assistant, Visva-Bharati (OBC)
24. Audio Visual Operator, Social Work 
25. Jr. Technical Assistant, REC
26. Jr. Technical Assistant, REC (OBC)
27. Jr. Technical Assistant (Female candidate only), REC (OBC)
28. Reference Assistant, PCK (OBC) (PH) 
29. Matron, University Hostel, Visva Bharati (OBC) 
30. Matron, University Hostel, Visva-Bharati (SC)
31. Matron, Girls Hostel (ST) 
32. Matron, Girls Hostel
33. Matron, Girls Hostel (OBC)
34. Dresser, P.M. Hospital, Visva Bharati
35. Dresser, P.M. Hospital, Visva Bharati 
36. Ward boy cum Attendant, P.M. Hospital, Visva Bharati 
37. Ward boy cum Attendant, P.M.Hospital, Visva Bharati(OBC)
38. Attendant, P.M. Hospital, Visva Bharati(SC) 
39. Dental Attendant, P.M. Hospital, Visva Bharati
40. Attendant - cum - Sprayer, P.M.Hospital

How to Apply : Duly filled-in application form in prescribed format with 12 photo copies of filled-in form,  and one set  of attested photo-copies of testimonials/ certificates and two recent passport size photographs signed in full (at the bottom), by the candidate, should reach the the Registrar, Visva-Bharati, Santiniketan, Dist-Birbhum, Pin- 731235on or before 20/07/2013.

Please visit http://visva-bharati.ac.in/appointments/appointments.htm for details (Advt. No. 04/2013) and application form

Army 30th 10+2 Technical Entry

INDIAN ARMY


30th 10+2 Technical Entry Scheme (TES) Course Commencing from January 2014

Published for http://www.SarkariNaukriBlog.com

Applications are invited from unmarried male who have passed 10+2 examination with Physics, Chemistry and Mathematics subjects and fulfill the eligibility conditions for the grant of Permanent Commission/ SSC in the Indian Army. 

• Posts : 85 posts
• Qualification : 10+2 (PCM) with 70% marks.
• Age : 16 and half to 19 and half years i.e. born between 01 July 1994 and and 01 July 1997 (both days inclusive)
• Physical Standard: min. height 152 cm and weight 42 kg., better eye 6/6 and worst eye 6/18
• Type of Commission : On successful completion of 4 years of the course cadets will be granted Permanent Commission in the Army in the rank of Lt. in Arms/Services as per discretion of Army Hq.
• Pay Scale : Candidates will be entitled to pay scale of Rs.15600-39100 plus Grade Pay Rs.5400 plus MSP Rs.6000 and other allowances.

Method of Selection: Only selected (shortlisted) candidates will be called for Service Selection Board (SSB) interview at Allahabad, Bhopal and Bangalore for fives selection process. In which candidates will be put through Psychological test, Group Test and Interview.

How to Apply: Apply Online at Indian Army websitehttp://joinindianarmy.nic.in from 21/05/2013 to 30/06/2013.Take a print out of the system generated and send it by Registered/ Speed Post to "Additional Directorate General of Recruiting (Rtg-6), TES Section, West Block-III, R.K.Puram, New Delhi-110066" to reach by 10/06/2013.

Further detail regarding this entry scheme can be seen athttp://www.joinindianarmy.nic.in (in Permanent Commission) and the link to  online submission is available in What's New section).  Details are also available at http://indianarmy.nic.in/.

Also see Employment News dated 18/05/2013 (page no. 28) to see to see the detailed Advertisement.

Mewar Aanchalik Gramin Bank Udaipur Recruitment 2013 for the post of Officers and Office Assistants

MEWAR AANCHALIK GRAMIN BANK UDAIPUR invites applications from Indian citizens, for the post of Officer in Middle Management Grade (Scale II), and Office Assistant (Multipurpose) from Indian citizens who have appeared at the Common Written Examination for RRBs conducted by IBPS in September 2012 and declared qualified

Before applying for any of the mentioned post, the candidate should ensure that he/she fulfills the eligibility and other norms mentioned in this advertisement. Decision of the Bank in all matters regarding eligibility of the candidate, the stages at which scrutiny of such eligibility is to be undertaken, the documents to be produced for the purpose of the conduct of interview, selection and any other matter relating to recruitment will be final and binding on the candidate. No correspondence or personal enquiries shall be entertained by the bank on this behalf.

1. Officer Scale-II (Chartered Accountants) – 05 posts

• Qualification : Certified Associateship (CA) from Institute of Chartered Accountants of India

2. Office Assistant (Multipurpose) – 40 posts

• Qualification : Degree in any discipline from a recognized University or its equivalent and Proficiency in local language

Application Fee :

Officer (Scale II )

• Rs. 20/- for SC/ST/PWD candidates.
• Rs.100/- for all others

Office Assistant (Multipurpose)

• Rs. 20/- for SC/ST/PWD/EXSM candidates.
• Rs.100/- for all others

Important Dates :

• Payment of Application Fees : 21-05-2013 to 07-06-2013
• Opening date for Online Registration : 21-05-2013
• Last Date for Online Registration : 07-06-2013

For complete advertisement visit : http://www.thesarkarinaukri.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/MAGB.pdf

For Bank challan Download visit : http://www.thesarkarinaukri.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/MAGB-Challan.pdf

Monster tornado rips apart Oklahoma; at least 91 dead

WASHINGTON: The death toll from a massive tornado that swept through a US suburb of Oklahoma City has risen to 91, including at least 20 children, an official told CNN early Tuesday.

Amy Elliott, of the state medical examiner's office, said in a televised interview that 40 more bodies had been recovered since an earlier toll of 51, after the massive twister flattened several suburban blocks and two schools.

Stunned weather forecasters reported a two-mile (three-kilometer) wide swath of vicious winds and television news helicopters tracked a dark funnel plowing through densely-packed suburbs.

"We've had a massive tornado, a huge one that has passed through this community," Oklahoma's Governor Mary Fallin told a news conference.

"We know there are a lot of injuries. We know we've lost a tremendous amount of structures throughout this community and throughout the state," she said, as the Moore police chief urged people to leave the area.

"There are a lot of safety issues, gas lines, power lines, things of that nature, that we have to take into consideration and there's just not much else that can be done there at this time," police chief Jerry Sillings said.

Reporters for local broadcaster KFOR-TV saw children as young as nine being pulled out of the Plaza Towers Elementary School in Moore, a residential community of 55,000 just south of Oklahoma's state capital.

Anxious parents were being kept at a distance while search-and-rescue workers scrambled to free the students.

A second elementary school, Briarwood, was also hit but did not appear to have sustained casualties.

From its news helicopter, KFOR's cameras captured scenes of widespread destruction, with street after street of single-story homes in Moore stripped of their roofs and cars piled atop each other like toys.

Utility lines were down and gas lines exposed, triggering localized fires. The Moore Medical Center was evacuated after it sustained damage, and state authorities called out the National Guard to help rescue efforts.

US President Barack Obama meanwhile declared a "major disaster" in Oklahoma and ordered federal aid to supplement local recovery efforts.

On Twitter, the National Weather Service gave the tornado a preliminary rating of EF-4, indicating that it packed winds of 166 to 200 miles per hour (267-322 km/h) — more severe than a category five hurricane.

In downtown Oklahoma City, tornado sirens went off at least three times and the Interstate 35 highway — a busy north-south artery through the American heartland — was closed to all but emergency vehicles.

In Moore, live images from KFOR showed people wandering among the debris and even a couple of untethered horses from a local stable that somehow managed to survive the punishing storm.

"I had no idea it was coming," said a stable worker, who told how he survived the "unbearably loud" twister by taking cover in one of the stalls.

Monday's tornado followed roughly the same track as a May 1999 twister that killed 44 people, injured hundreds more and destroyed thousands of homes.

Tornadoes frequently touch down on Oklahoma's wide open plains, but Monday's twister struck a populated urban area and raised fears of a high casualty toll.

Because of the hard ground, few homes are built with basements or storm shelters in which residents can take cover.

Oklahoma City lies inside the so-called " Tornado Alley" stretching from South Dakota to central Texas, an area particularly vulnerable to tornadoes.

On Sunday, a powerful storm system churning through the US Midwest spawned tornadoes in Iowa, Kansas and Oklahoma, destroying homes and killing at least two people, US media reported.

Fallin had already declared a state of emergency for 16 Oklahoma counties due to the tornado threat on Sunday, and added five more on Monday after the storms hit her capital.

In Washington, a White House official said Obama was getting regular updates and that the Federal Emergency Management Agency ( FEMA) stood ready to provide assistance.

"The administration continues to urge all those in affected or potentially affected areas to follow the direction of state and local officials as this severe weather continues," the official added.

Assistant recruitment in Insurance Companies May-2013

Recruitment of  Assistants in Public Sector Insurance Companies

Online Applications are invited for the following 2600 posts of Assistants in Public Sector Insurance Companies like National Insurance Company Limited, New India Assurance Company Limited, Oriental Insurance Company Limited and United India Insurance Company Limited  state wise :

• Assistant : 2600 posts (UR-1385, OBC-721, SC-310, ST-184), Age : 21-30 years. Relaxation as per rules.,Pay Scale : Rs. 7640-21050 in Scale-I.
• National Insurance Company Limited : 800 posts
• New India Assurance Company Limited : 600 posts
• Oriental Insurance Company Limited : 600 posts
• United India Insurance Company Limited : 600 posts

Selection by competitive exam on 14/07/2013 and 21/07/2013 2 followed by interview for selected candidates.

Application Fee : Rs.400/-  (Rs.200/- for Female) (Rs.50/- for SC/ST/PWD) to be deposited in the  nearest Indian Bank Branch to deposit the appropriate fees in Cash only in Account No. 6008050653 in favour of „National Insurance Co. Ltd‟.

How to Apply : Apply Online at National Insurance Website only from 18/05/2013 to 08/06/2013. 

Please visithttp://www.nationalinsuranceindia.com/nicWeb/nic/recruitmain.jsp for details and online submission of application.

Non-Faculty posts in THDC-IHET May-2013

Tehri Hydro Development Corporation Limited (THDC)
THDC Institute of Hydropower Engineering and Technology (THDC-IHET)
(Constituent Institute of Uttarakhand Technical University, Dehradun)
Bhagirthipuram, Tehri, Uttarakhand, India


Faculty Positions For newly established THDC Institute of Hydropower Engineering and Technology invite applications for following Non-Faculty positions :  

1. Assistant Registrar : 01 post
2. Accountant : 01 post
3. Technical Assistant (Electrical Engineering) : 01 post
4. Technical Assistant (Electronics Engineering) : 01 post
5. Technical Assistant (Mechanical Engineering) : 01 post
6. Technical Assistant (Civil Engineering) : 02 posts

How to Apply : The completed application along with required documents should be sent to the following address by registered / speed post on or before 31/05/2013 to Director, THDC Institute of Hydropower Engineering and Technology, Bhagirthipuram, Tehri, Uttarakhand. 

For further details and application form, please viewhttp://www.thdcihet.com/documents/THDC-IHET-Nonteaching-Staff-Web-Ad-2013May-07.pdf

Faculty posts in THDC-IHET May-2013

Tehri Hydro Development Corporation Limited (THDC)
THDC Institute of Hydropower Engineering and Technology (THDC-IHET)
(Constituent Institute of Uttarakhand Technical University, Dehradun)
Bhagirthipuram, Tehri, Uttarakhand, India


Faculty Positions For newly established THDC Institute of Hydropower Engineering and Technology invite applications for faculty positions (Assistant Professors and Associate Professors) in the following disciplines:  

1. Electrical Engineering : 04 posts
2. Electronics Engineering : 04 posts
3. Mechanical Engineering : 04 posts
4. Civil Engineering : 04 posts
5. Computer Science : 04 posts

The appointment will be made for one year as temporary basis with consolidated salary (Assistant Professor – Rs. 30000/- per month & Associate Professor – Rs. 70000/- per month) and likely to be considered in second phase of interviews against permanent position after the sanction of post by Govt. of UK, The self appraisal performance index will be sole criterion for final phase of interviews. 

How to Apply : The completed application along with required documents should be sent to the following address by registered / speed post on or before 31/05/2013 to  Director, THDC Institute of Hydropower Engineering and Technology, Bhagirthipuram, Tehri, Uttarakhand 

For further details and application form, please viewhttp://www.thdcihet.com/documents/THDC-IHET-Faculty-Web-Ad-2013-May-071.pdf